On this journey of reconnecting with myself and my gifts, I’ve become keenly aware of ways that I share my energy; specifically, the times that I am pouring from my cup into others. Who I do it for? What times of the month I am more inclined to give of myself freely? How I share myself?
Filling my cup
I am proud of myself for this increased energy awareness and encourage you to pay attention too. I have learned that creating art, writing, dancing, reading, singing, self-play, meditation, moving and practicing/teaching yoga help me refuel. While this is a nice list of things that I enjoy, they are almost exclusively solo activities.
Don’t get me wrong, solo activities are crucial. It is important to be able to enjoy your time with yourself. I’ve become skilled in the art of masturdating. As an semi-extroverted introvert, I know that I need me time to be my best. But there is more to the story.
Pouring from an empty cup is draining. So is not allowing yourself to be poured into by others.
If you’re anything like me (regularly doing for and helping others) when do you allow yourself to be catered to, listened to or taken care of ? Who do you let in to care for you ? How does it feel to be poured into? Who do you hold space with – not just hold space for?
Story time
I recently connected with some good friends for brunch at their home. I hadn’t seen them in a long time due to the pandemic but after months of virtual games and lots of FaceTime catch ups, we were finally enjoying a meal together.
I brought drinks and fruits to contribute to the brunch. However, each time I tried to help with the preparation of the meal they told me they are taking care of it and by extension me.
Who do you hold space with – not just hold space for?
Share the give and take
This is a simple example but having friends who are intentional about caring for me and listening to me remind me that there can be balance in relationships; a shared give and take.
Relationships like this friendship remind me that I deserve to be loved, cared for and taken care of the way that I care for others. That my cup deserves to be poured into. Do you know what’s going on with your cup?
